phunchurchgirl
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| | June 28, 2009 at 11:21 PM | Reply with quote | #1 |
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I came across this list of instructions for what makes a "Good Wife". These questions are both for men and women here:
Which of these rules should/should not exist in a good marriage? How many actually apply to your relationships? How many will you try to implement from this point onward?
Should there be a Good Husband's Guide?
The Good Wife should:
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc... and then run a dust cloth over the tables.
Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimise all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
You goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
A good wife always knows her place.
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hunterswife
Registered: Sept 12, 2006
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| | June 30, 2009 at 08:59 AM | Reply with quote | #2 |
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I think I saw this years ago...it was in a 1950's or 60's home economics book or something like that.
I am going to answer at the end of each one. Some of these things have I have done when I did not work and some I still do. YES there should be a guide for the husbands...it is not all on the sister as they try to make it seem.
The Good Wife should:
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. WHEN I DID NOT WORK DINNER WAS ALWAYS READY AHEAD OF TIME. BUT NOW WE BOTH WORK 40 HOUR A WEEK JOBS AND WHOEVER MAKES IT HOME FIRST COOKS DINNER OR WHOEVER WAS OFF THAT DAY MAKES DINNER(WORKS FOR US)
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. AGAIN WHEN I DID NOT WORK I TRIED TO MAKE SURE I WAS NOT LOOKING ALL CRAZY WHEN HE CAME HOME FROM WORK. BUT SINCE I WORK NOW TOO...I LOOK HOW I LOOK WHEN I GET HOME....LOL.
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it. I AM ALWAYS INTO HIM......
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. WHEN I WAS AT HOME ALL DAY THAT IS WHAT I DID. BUT NOW WE BOTH TRY TO PICK UP BEFORE WE GO TO BED.
Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc... and then run a dust cloth over the tables. NO!!! THE KIDS CAN CLEAN ON THEIR OWN...IF THEY TOOK THE TOYS OUT THEN THEY CAN PUT THEM UP....THIS HAS NOT CHANGED ONE BIT WORKING OR NOT. WE DUST WHEN WE CLEAN UP.
Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction. WE DON'T HAVE A FIREPLACE SO NOW WHAT????
Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. WHEN I DID NOT WORK I JUST MADE SURE THEY GAVE HIM A FEW MINUTES ALONE WHEN HE CAME HOME. NOW THAT IS HOMEWORK TIME, HE TAKE A MINUTE WHILE THEY START THEIR HOMEWORK...I DO TOO SINCE THEY ARE OLDER.
Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. I AM ALWAYS HAPPY TO SEE HIM.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours. LOL.....WHAT HE HAS TO SAY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAT WHAT I HAVE TO SAY....LOL.....OK.............
Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax. DON'T COMPLAIN....WHAT??? WHAT IF HE IS SPENDING MONEY WE DON'T HAVE OR NOT TAKING TIME WITH HIS FAMILY??? THIS IS/WAS NOT AN ISSUE FOR US CUZ HE LIKES TO BE AT HOME CHILLING ANYWAY.
You goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. I MAKE IT A PLACE OF PEACE FOR ALL OF US NOT JUST HIM.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems. THAT IS NOT COOL ANYWAY...SO WE DON'T DO IT.
Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day. WE BOTH CALL THAT IS JUST CONSIDERATE.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. HE COMES IN AND GRABS HIS JUICE....LOL.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. HE WOULD LAUGH IF I DID THIS.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. LMBO!!!!! DO I REALLY NEED TO GO THERE, REALLY???? PLEASE THE WORD SAYS TO REVERENCE HIM AND HE IS TO HONOR ME AS THE WEAKER VESSEL....THIS IS CRAZY!!!
A good wife always knows her place. AND SO DOES A HUSBAND...NEED WE SAY MOREBut really though if that is what worked for them back then then cool. But just reading some of this stuff why would a woman want to get married?? It pretty much boils down to the fact that the woman is nothing and her WHOLE job is to serve her husband (according to this reading). AND the sad part it the church has bought into this idea (some of the church NOT all.)
I just shake my head some days. I am so glad that my marriage so MORE than who cooks, cleans, irons, etc. So glad!!!
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